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I very clearly remember when and why I stopped taking the pill. It was my senior year of college, and I had just broken up with my boyfriend of several years. I was heartbroken, and probably a bit cynical about when I would ever feel anything for another person enough to have sex with them. And, at that time, I figured it was $30 a month back in my pocket that I certainly could use. Years followed where I wasn’t in any serious relationships, so I simply used condoms for birth control whenever there was a man in the (short term) picture.
Two years ago, when I met my current boyfriend, and knew it was going to be more than a fling, we had a serious conversation about birth control… together (a very new experience for me). I told him that I had serious reservations about getting back on the pill, primarily because at that point in my life, after a serious bout of Lyme’s Disease and subsequent thyroid issues that put my hormones totally out of whack, I was just trying to get my body back to neutral. In truth, there was also something liberating about feeling that my body and my cycle had, for the first time since I was 15, been occurring naturally for several years without any influence from synthetic chemicals or hormones. (Note: to be clear, I wholeheartedly support women’s rights and ability to fully access birth control of any and every kind, and also know that many women take birth control pills to manage health conditions that have nothing to do with family planning. Whatever feels true to you and your body—rock on sister).
Having zero desire or intention of getting pregnant, however, this posed a serious question. We didn’t want to be a monogamous healthy couple constantly using condoms, but we definitely didn’t want to have a baby. In what I can only describe as a wholeheartedly supportive and trusting moment, my boyfriend agreed that we would take a natural approach to birth control instead. I would track and monitor my cycle (which thankfully was quite regular) and we would adjust our sexual activity accordingly.
There are many methods of cycle tracking (I tried the Days Method, as well as taking my temperature and charting my cycle on paper and through various Apps). But frankly, I’m a busy woman with an ever changing morning routine, and as soon as you miss a couple of days of tracking things can get murky—not a position you want to be in with such a high stakes scenario. And while we eventually got to a point where my cycle was so predictable that I was able to know when my fertile window was going to be—there was still a level of uncertainty and unease that ensued; cycles can be thrown off schedule through changes in stress level, diet, exercise, and overall health—all things I faced on a fairly regular basis.
At some point, I heard about these new Basal Body Temperature thermometers that would tell you, on the spot, whether you were fertile or not, and would record your cycle data automatically in an App. Amazing. So a few months ago when I finally decided to try it out, I researched a few options. From my perspective, however, Daysy was the clear front runner in the market.
To quote their website,
- Every morning, take your temperature under your tongue.
- Confirm menstruation on the days you have it.
- Daysy evaluates your data and calculates your fertility status for the next 24 hours.”
Daysy also connects to the Daysy View app, and will transfer your data from your Daysy for easy tracking in a calendar view. A nice way to get to know your cycle and see where you are within in at any time.
Live action shot of me at 5:30AM, sleepily letting my Daysy do it’s thing.
It takes 2-3 cycles for Daysy to learn your cycle and your individual fluctuations. Admittedly those first couple of months when Daysy was just “learning” was a huge tease for an impatient person like me, but it was well worth the wait. By my third cycle it had collected enough daily data to know when I was and was not fertile and the day that light went from yellow (data collection mode) to green (you’re not fertile, go get busy!) was like Christmas morning.
Overall, words can not explain the relief of waking up, popping this thing under my tongue for 30 seconds or so, and knowing, in the clearest possible terms, whether I could or could not get pregnant that day. Red means you’re fertile—i.e. don’t have sex if you don’t want to get pregnant. Green means you’re not fertile—i.e. feel free to get busy.
Obviously, for women who ARE trying to get pregnant, you can use Daysy to interpret your cycle to know when you are fertile so you can be sure to have sex on those days.
To say Daysy has been a life changing addition to my life is an understatement. As a woman who wanted to understand and be more conscious of her cycle, who wanted fewer chemicals in her body, who wanted to avoid pregnancy naturally, and who needed a simple, straightforward, no fuss or muss option, Daysy has been a game changer. This is truly the first birth control method I’ve used where I’ve felt truly aligned with myself—my healthy, perpetually too busy and distracted, unscheduled yet overly scheduled messy life-living self. I now feel confident that I can have the body I want, the sex life I want, and the family life I want when I want it, without compromising any of my wellness goals or values.